Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Traveling and Potty Training

Hi everyone it's been a long time, I know.  But if you ever have any questions feel free to email me or post to the blog.  There are tons of information and tips in the previous posts, so look there too for some answers. 

Today I want to talk about traveling with a potty training toddler.  Over the summer we traveled long distance in the car, driving about 18 hours one day and 10 hours on another trip.  At this point my daughter was 19-20 months, so about a month or two of being completely potty trained and she did awesome, stayed dry the whole time.  One thing I feel is necessary is to have their little potty seat in the car with you.  It serves as a reminder and it is great for those 'I have to go NOW' moments.  Sometimes trying to find a potty on the highway is impossible and a mile can be a long time for a child to wait.  I tried to limit drinks to sleepy time and meals, or just let them take a sip or two here and there, but no guzzling esp for the whole trip!  Remember to continue praising them when they did stay dry or told you they had to go.  Another thing I didn't leave w/o was my traveling potty seat.  It's a collapsible one that will fit in your purse, so I use that for our toilet insert when we are at relatives houses or rest areas.  My kids are ok with new things and find them exciting, but if you know your child dislikes change then I would suggest bringing exactly what they like at home, unless it's the whole toilet, of course.  :)  It's also very convenient to have the potty seat in the car even when going around town running errands.  How many times have you asked your child if they need to go potty in the store and the minute you leave or start driving off they have to go 'BAD'.  You won't always need it, just for the first few months when they(and you) are still learning their signals/signs.

Some other things to remember are to keep an extra pullup, undies and bottoms stashed away in the car and to change it out for seasons.  And whatever you do, don't go backwards and start using diapers again, it just sends mixed signals.  Once they are out of them, they should be out of them for good!

And lastly, when you are frustrated and thinking about calling it quits..... remember CONSISTENCY is key and stick with it!  It will get better!

Happy Potty Training,

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Breakthrough Week! 18mth old is Potty Trained!!

We had a really good breakthrough this past week(end).  On Friday Deidra was feeling sick but since we had out of state family in we went out sightseeing.  She was laying around most of the trip with a pullup on.  While out eating she started complaining and thought she had to go potty.  I took her to the restroom and sat her on the big potty.  As normal she didn't like it or want to go on it.  After about 10 mins she started complaining/signalling again like she had to go.  I sat her on it again, but this time I offered her candy as a reward.  And then she did it, she peed on the public potty!!!  She kept her pullup dry the rest of the trip and ride home that day.  I hope she continues this trend so we can start working our way into going out in undies instead of pullups!!

Another breakthrough this weekend was that on another day we were headed out to the store.  Being in a rush, I forgot to have her try to go before we were leaving.  I just started putting a pullup on and after she was all dressed she started crying 'potty, potty, potty'.  I pulled down her pullup and sat her on the potty and she went peepee!!!  She has been doing Really Good with peeing on demand, like before we go out to play or before bed/nap time!

So it seems as if she is now learning that we go on the potty no matter what the situation.  We have officially worked going on the potty into our daily routine and made it a habit!

Also we did some undie work this past week and she is getting better at that.  She will go on the potty when she is wearing undies, she just doesn't remember to pull them down or needs help pulling them down. 

We are planning a long drive this upcoming month and I have a feeling that she will be in the stage where she doesn't want to pee in a pullup anymore and is going to ask to go potty every 1/2 hour, lol  Should be a lot of fun!! lol

Helpful tip for public potties....  if you sit your child on a automatic flusher, remember to stay in position the whole time they are on the seat so the sensor does not go off.  A good spot is squatted or bent over in front of them/the seat.  Also there are some great portable potty seats available to buy.  I have one that folds into a quarter its size, fits in a larger sized purse or normal sized diaper bag!  It gives them the extra support they need for the big seats!

Thursday, May 19, 2011

About 1 month in

Hi everyone, I think we are about one month into potty training.  Deidra by far has been the most difficult out of all my girls.  But she is doing great!  She is completely potty trained..... at home with no bottoms on :) 
She has been accident free at home for sometime now.  She will go peepee or poopoo on her potty without any help and will come tell me after she is done so we can wipe, flush and wash.  I am so very proud of her.

Now going out in public is a different thing.  I blame this partially on me.  We recently got a new car and I don't want peepee in it, so I have been putting pullups on her when we go out.  And just as I suspected she will pee in them.  After all kids aren't dummies!  They know it's just a glorified diaper.  I have been making more of an effort to bring portable potty seat with us when we are out and to offer or ask her if she has to go potty while we are out.  Now we did go to a friends house for a potty party and she did go on the little potties that were out for them.  So I know she knows to still go potty even if we are not at home.  I just need to lay some towels in her car seat and hope for the best.

We have been also working on wearing bottoms.  She has been doing pretty good with that as well.  I wait until she goes potty (and hasn't downed a drink), then I will either put undies or loose pants on her and venture out into the neighborhood.  She has told me a few times 'potty' and I picked her up and brought her home to go potty; and then we've gone back out.  This is a good way to show them that we CAN take a break to go potty and still be able to go back to our activity!  That is really important b/c that is a big concern to them. 

This upcoming month...
We will continue to work on going potty in a public restroom.  And continue working on keeping our undies or pants dry.

If you have any questions feel free to email me directly or ask in the comment box. 

And remember CONSISTENCY....


Have you ever tried to lose weight?

Have you ever gone on a diet to try to lose weight???  Did you just dive in or did you have a plan of action?  Did you get frustrated and want to give up?  Did you give up only to put the weight back on and have to start all over again?  Do you see a pattern or similarities to potty training? 
Potty training takes time just like weightloss does.  You are not going to lose those 10 or 20 lbs in one week.  It's a gradual process and one that needs constant attention.  You can't say well I'm gonna eat a healthy breakfast and then burgers, fries and a soda for lunch and dinner and think you are going to lose weight.  You have to stick with your plan all day long and start all over again in the morning.  Potty training is the same way, you have to be reminding them and talking to them about going to the potty all day.  They need reminders just like we do!  They need incentives just like we do.  They need consistancy just like we do.  And they need encouragement just like we do!  Don't we tend to feel more confident and ready to go when we read articles on others weightloss success?  Or when we arm ourselves with information to get us going or back on track?  Do the same with your child, keep reading the books or watching the videos.  Knowledge truly does empower us to take on difficult tasks!
When we are trying to lose weight we have to learn to incorporate exercise into our daily routine.  Try to figure out ways to incorporate potty time into your daily routine.  For example, going potty when you wake up, going potty before you go out or before you go to bed.  Show them that this is a part of Mommy's and Daddy's life and now it is a part of theirs.  Show them that we don't take a time out during the day and put a pullup on b/c we don't want to try, show them that if we have to go potty while we are out we use a public one.  And show them your confidence in them and your confidence in knowing that everything is ok and nothing bad will happen to them (esp in the big scary restrooms).

If you need help implementing a plan, let me know and I can help!  If you are frustrated, write a comment and get it off your chest.  We all have been there and know how frustrating it can be! 

And as always, remember CONSISTANCY is key!

Thursday, April 28, 2011

2wks in

I think we are officially 2 weeks in.  It's been a long messy 2weeks!! I'll admit I questioned myself everyday for the first week, but kept reassuring myself that consistency would eventually pay off, and it has!!  I think yesterday was our first accident free day at home.  She went on her potty all by herself every time.  And last night I was cleaning up after dinner and the rest of the crew was in the living room and she just sat on her potty and went peepee and poopoo!!! She's been doing really well with going poopoo on the potty, she just sometimes wakes up with it in her pullup.  But if she's up she will go in her potty!

Some things I've noticed/learned:

- with peepee, I have to back off a little, just give her a few reminders and let her go on her own
- she doesn't have a potty dance but rather a 'face' she makes when she has to go... she'll stop in her tracks and have this look like 'oh, here it comes' lol
- she will also start holding herself, and with my 2nd daughter I remember it was a hesitation in her voice, not a dance as well!  So look for their signals!
- she can hold it for about an hour after she drinks a cup of juice and then she'll go a little at a time for about a half hour and then be good for a couple of hours
- she could care less about stickers so I do candy for poops and fruit snacks or a homemade treat for peepee, but she doesn't really ask for it, I do it as a reward and once in a while!

- she does like to do the peepee's on the potty dance after she goes potty
- she likes to wash her hands after she goes potty, so those are some good rewards as well!

Now she still goes in her pullups while we are out so I really try to limit the amount of time we go out or the amount of time I keep her in a pullup.  I'm hoping that within the next two weeks she will start staying dry when we go out for short periods of time.

Some things to work on:

- I think I will give her one more week of bare bottom at home
- start the routine of putting undies on her right after she goes potty and going outside to play or for a walk and then come in after a half hour and have her sit on the potty.  Hopefully that will teach her two things, go potty before we leave the house and keep undies dry!! 
- I also have been putting the potty outside during playtime as a reminder to go when she needs to

So proud of my big girl! 

Remember... Consistency!!!

Sunday, April 24, 2011

PeePee's on the Potty

So we are a few days shy of two weeks into potty training.  We definitely ARE NOT ready for undies yet, but we have made some significant improvements since my last post.  On Friday she woke up nearly dry and I took her pullup off right away and she peed in her potty w/in 20 mins.   Then that morning we went to playgroup and she peed on the potty there and then a few times at home.... but when she woke up from nap she was not on her game.  The few days after that were close to the same- half of the day good, half bad.  Just when I was about to pull my hair out she would go all by herself w/o me prompting and come and tell me when she would go.  My husband and I think she just doesn't want me telling her when to go.... lol stubborn little thing.  Today we were almost accident free, she went on the potty all day except for nap time of course and once after egg hunting when I took her pullup off(which was dry).  Which leads me to believe (as I always have) the pullup is confusing her.  Today she peed on her potty right before she got into the tub for a bath and then right when she got out of the tub.  And then this evening she had two accidents while I was having her sit on the potty every so often.... go figure.  I will just continue to move forward and stay at home as much as possible so that she can hopefully be accident free (bare bottom wise) by the end of this upcoming week!! 

Remember Consistency is Key!

Thursday, April 21, 2011

POOPOO's on the Potty

YAY, my big girl just went poopoo's on the potty all by herself again!!!

I was on the phone and she was playing and she got up and walked over to her potty and pooped right in it!!!  And when she was done she said 'POOPOO'!!!


Wednesday, April 20, 2011

1 week in (insert FRAZZLED looking icon) lol

So I think we are 1 week in or just about...
What a whirlwind it has been.  Last time I posted she peed in the potty that night.  Well the next day I don't think she even hit it once, and the few days to follow were the same.  She would try at times, but not actually go and other times she would be playing and just pee where she was at.  There were many times where I definitely wanted to throw the towel in (or a diaper on) lol, but kept telling myself" "consistency"

Today we had a pretty good day.  I made sure to just sit with her just about the whole day at ALL times...  I had food in the freezer that I had prepared over the weekend so that was helpful in being able to sit with her during the evening hours and my oldest was on 'probation' so I assigned all my cleaning for her to do :) Well sitting with her all day really paid off.  She peed the majority of the time in the potty today while we sat there watching potty movies and reading books (potty books).  After a while, I honestly kinda felt like I had been expecting her to get 'it' on her own at first w/o too much of the daily reading of the books and watching the movies. And then thought we should continue with all the potty teaching tools and reteach her what it is I expect from her.  I'm thinking that I need to do the same thing (devote all my attention to her) for the next few days as well to really create a sustained habit.

One more thing, A BIG THING.... after dinner (and dribbling on the floor, grrr) she was sitting on the floor playing with her toys and I was loading the dishwasher.... Well I saw her get up and run over to her potty... I thought, 'naw, she can't be doing it on her own'; so I went over to see what she was doing and she said 'poopoo' and YES SHE DID, she pooped in the potty ALL BY HERSELF!!!! I was so happy and proud of her!! She got some skittles for that and LOTS of Hugs and Kisses! 

So if you take anything away from this post it is... Don't Give Up, Consistency is key, and keep teaching even when you feel they should know what to do!!! 

I hope we have a good day tomorrow and don't take a step backwards! 

Friday, April 15, 2011

Day 3

YAY!!! We had SUCCESS!!
Most of the day was pretty rough.  Lot's of pee still on the floor, but she attempted to go on the potty almost Every time!!  She would stop what she was doing and go over to the potty and sit down, but then she would whimper a little and then get up.  And then go back to playing and then the same thing again.  And then it would end up on the floor.  Well just a little while ago she was jumping around on the couch and all of a sudden she had that look on her face and she got down and sat on the potty, same thing a whimper and nothing.  She did that about 3 times and I just kept saying "Deidra if you have to go peepee go on the potty'.  And then she got down again and sat on the potty and I started reading her a book (I have several by the potty at all times) and she did it, she pee'd right in it!  And then she got up and walked straight to the pantry for candy, LOL.  She deserved it, so I gave her 2 Valentine's hearts.  YAY!!
I hope tomorrow is another good day and a 'cleaner' day!!  I also caught poopoo on the potty today.  She was playing and I saw she was gearing up to go and I sat her on the potty and out it came!  So Dorian and I did the 'poopoo on the potty' dance and gave her some m&m's!  The look on her face when she see's her poop in the potty is priceless! 
My husband questioned whether she was ready or not today b/c she pee'd while sitting in her highchair eating dinner.... and then I was kinda questioning things, but also felt like we were moving forward.... well Deidra peeing on the potty w/o me putting her on it or catching it really gave me that extra confidence that I needed! 

Potty training is exhausting.  Time to put the pull up on and the kids to sleep so I can let my guard down until tomorrow morning...

Keep moving forward....

Day 2

Day 2 was ok.  Still lot's of pee on the floor.  But we got a poop on the potty and then after that point she tried harder.  At one point she had a peepee trail to the potty.  She tried getting to the potty but didn't make it in time.  So not fully successful yet, but getting there. 

This morning (day 3), she has been trying more.  She was playing for a while and then got up suddenly and sat on the potty, but no peepee came out.  So she's still a little hesitant on peeing on the potty, but really aware of what her body is doing and what she needs to do.  I hope we have more success today! 

Thursday, April 14, 2011


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Day 1

Yesterday was our first day of training and one thing I have to say is.... my carpet is going to need some shampooing!!  lol  As expected the pee hit the floor all day long.  Two positive things were - we had to go out to the bank and store for a few things and she stayed dry in a pull up.  Had to use one b/c we were about to sell my car and the last thing I wanted was pee or poop smell in it!  The second thing was that towards the end of the day she would tell me she was peeing on the floor by saying POTTY!  So some connections are being made!  Oh and she pooped in her pull up while she was taking a nap, so at least I didn't have that mess on the floor! 
I tend to dislike tracking time, like I would just feed my baby when they showed signs of being hungry or would never keep track of how many times a day they would feed stuff like that.  But with having a sick kiddo at home this week and running a larger household I'm finding that I have to be doing things and can't keep track of her all the time... so we are going to try the timer today.  This way I can put her on the potty every 30 mins.  I have notice some of her signals and will be looking for more of those today so we can hopefully 'catch' the pee today! 
And lastly I wanted to say, I have NO diapers in the house so this way I'm not going to turn to them.
Hope the last one doesn't give me the hardest time!!

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

We're almost ready....

My daughter is now 16mths.  My other 2 girls were potty trained at 17mths, so I'm thinking let's try #3 around the same time....
So many mom's ask 'how do I get started?'
Well for the past several months, we have been watching potty videos, reading potty books and we have increased 'the potty talk' around the house; no, we are not walking around cussing each other out, LOL.  I've been announcing who's going peepee or poopoo on the potty.  And when I change her diaper I'll say 'did you go poopoo' or if I can tell she's going I'll say 'are you going poopoo?'  She now has most of her 'potty' words down; and no she's not walking around cussing either(well, maybe she looks like she is sometimes, but that's probably about her sisters taking her things, lol)  She'll now tell me before, during and after she goes poopoo.  When I change her diaper she pats herself and says POTTY, very loud and proud.  And she tries to sing the 'peepee on the potty' song!!  She also knows what 'go sit on the potty' means and does it.  So, what am I waiting for.... well, she kinda didn't care if I was upset with her about anything and didn't quite grasp consequences for her actions.  But in the past 2 weeks I have noticed a shift in that.  I have noticed that when I give her a stern look or voice, she reacts and looks 'sorry' for her actions.  Now I am just waiting for things to calm down somewhat.  My middle child turns 3 this weekend and we have some outings planned.  And I have playgroup at my house the following day, so naked butt baby would probably not be the best.  I'm hoping to 'clear' my schedule for a week or two w/minimal outings, like only picking my daughter up from preschool and that's it for the few weeks after this weekend.  And then I'm hoping to have success.  I must admit I am a bit nervous this time around, kinda like I'm on display or an exhibit and everyone is watching.  But I'm trying not to let that affect my attitude towards what I believe I know how to do (plus if she smell desperation that might cause a battle I'm not wanting to fight) We all have our fears of failing and sometimes I think that is why we put things off or make up excuses on why we are not doing what we could be doing.  So I'm not going to let the fear of not succeeding let me put it off any longer.
Check back in a week or two!  I will hopefully be posting daily on how things are going and what we are doing on a daily basis to get this thing down!

Thursday, February 24, 2011

How's Potty Training going?

Are you sticking with it, moving forward?  Have you stalled and took a step back?  Remember to keep moving forward, children need rules, they need consistency.  Don't confuse them with 'today we will potty train, but tomorrow I don't have the time'.  Start when you know you have a week to dedicate to helping them get it down into their routine and then they can succeed. 

If you are having trouble commenting on a post, feel free to send me an email if you have any questions or comments and I can try to post them or just answer them. 

~Wendy aka thepottytrainingqueen  :)

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Do you have a crier?

One of the main questions or concerns I hear about is the child that cries when he or she is about 'to go' while sitting on the potty.  One thing to remember is that they are just unsure of this thing their body does, is doing or about to do.  These functions have been hidden behind the diaper for so long and it can be a bit scary.  When I started training my daughters the first day was about everything hitting the floor basically.  You are playing catch.  You are trying to catch them and get them to the potty in time so that they can see that what just came out of their body is now in their potty(so keep your play area limited and potty in the same area).  And then when they see YOUR reaction and how it pleases you, well, they will come back for more.  If they are timid and scared then it is our jobs as mommy's to soothe their fears and to reassure them that it is ok and no harm will come to them.  My daughters never really cried to pee, but the first poopoo was always the scariest.  You kinda have to take a firm stand and keep things moving forward, but don't turn it into a battle.  I remember just sitting there next to them, hugging them and telling them "it's ok I know you are scared but Mommy does it, Daddy does it, Grandma and Grandpa do and now you will be a big girl just like us".  You name everyone they know and admire including their favorite characters.  And by doing so, then maybe you can change the subject to their favorite character and have a conversation about them.  Or read the potty books you have that shows the poop in the potty.  Distraction at this age is a wonderful tool! I always gave a special treat for poopoo.  Not everyone agrees or some worry that they will have to do this forever.  You don't, that eventually passes.  I just thought there was no harm in it.  People reward their animals w/treats for doing pointless tricks, why can't our children get rewarded w/treats for doing something that affects their life in a positive way.  At some point, Yeah it might be bribery, but for the most part it is rewarding!  And remember once you decide to start you have to keep moving forward.  We don't pee and poop in a diaper once in a while, so why would we ask them to.  It just sends mixed messages.  And they are toddlers they always try to see how long it'll take before you break and give in, that's why you can't!   

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Potty Training Adventures

Last night my 14mth old had a rash from pooping too much that day.  So I left her diaper off after changing her so the air could help it heal... Well we were upstairs and the two little ones were running around while I was poking around in the attic.  All of a sudden my 2yr old says 'Mommy, what's that?  Deeder's pooped'.  Well yep she sure did on the floor, so I picked her up and put her on the potty just in case there was anything else.  She was a little taken back by the incident and was a little upset so I got her down wiped her up, diapered her and cleaned up the mess.  She normally likes to sit on the potty either naked or with a diaper on.  I'm not officially potty training her right now, but with two older sisters she is aware of it and finds it interesting.  I've noticed she is about a month ahead of my other two.  I noticed at @ 15mths they became increasingly interested in me going so I would pull out the potty at that time and let them sit on it when I go.  At that time I also would start looking at the books so that they can start making some associations and become aware that 'babies' and 'mommy's' both use the potty. 
So it's a good idea to look for cues from your children to see when they peek interest... then it shouldn't be a power struggle!

Monday, February 7, 2011

Potty Training Materials

Do you have your potty training materials ready?  It's a good idea to have everything ready for the big event.

  • Do you have books?  Once Upon a Potty was always a favorite in my house as well as the one that has the button to flush!
  • DVD's? Bear in the Big Blue House was a big hit!
  • A Sticker Chart and stickers for peepee
  • Some sweet treats for poopoo
  • A Plan of Action....

Starting my book

Hi there, I'm finally starting my blog on potty training.  I've been wanting to create a blog for a while now, but being a busy SAHM to 3 girls my time always seems to slip away.  I have been writing a book/pamphlet on potty training for about a year now (on & off).  I started my book while I was potty training my second daughter a little over a year ago.  And after she was potty trained I went out of that mindset and walked away from it.  I am a bit of an advocate on potty training your child at a early age, like 15-18 months of age.  All of my mommy friends know this and often come to me for advise.  So with the encouragement of them I finally set up my blog and hope to have my book done and for sale within a few months.  If you ever have any questions please feel free to ask.  And if you ever need to vent about a frustrating potty training day, please feel free to talk to me.  We can work through the issues together. 
Thanks for following me,
aka - pottytrainingqueen